It took about a year and now I’m letting my hair grow long. Yes, it’s a difficult decision to make. I might try to find a layered shorter hair style (my hair is at my shoulders now so not long, but not short) and then once I’m totally gray (1-2 years depending how short I go and my hair grows fairly fast) I can grow it back out if that is what I want to do. Growing out a bad haircut is the worst — but growing out a good haircut is no walk in the park, either. Some people are very adventurous with their hair and have no problem doing the pixie, but I knew it wasn’t for me. Thank you for your kind words. It goes on wet and has to be dried, but this would probably be less messy to use and might stay in better. Gosh 10 years now and I still feel liberated! I’m expecting to go through some potential rough spots during the process, but I feel like this option can help me feel confident and allows me to have fun with the color in the interim. This is not a gray hair transition blog, Patricia. I had an appointment with a hair stylist to give me some highlights to soften my demarcation line, but now after reading your story, I am cancelling this appointment and just going for a haircut. After going shorter and shorter, I had a pixie-cut today (and still lots of red – it’s taking ages to grow out) but feel like I’m over the hump now (5 months since last henna application) – hopefully by March I can start the regrowing phase. The stylist assured me that it did indeed wash out with the “detox shampoo” she used at the shampoo bowl, but I never saw that effect myself. Hi! The reason I’m not done transitioning stems from my not being in the right headspace to take on this journey in the first place. What are the growing hair out stages and what can you do to grow your hair out like a pro? We have classes and new cir lines to make this process simpler and cir removers and e excellent 5 minute toners and color shampoo. I took 135 hours of my time back" If I had been having my hair dyed professionally, this break would have saved me around £1800 on salon trips! Solve one problem (getting rid of most of the colour) and end up with another one! It’s very surprising that I feel that way. Never getting over it, somehow getting on with it. Oh yes, self compassion. The stylist who did the highlights said that the brassiness was there because she couldn’t bleach my hair light enough the first time, for fear of my hair breaking off (which is a real danger, as vividly illustrated in this video). Thanks for documenting your journey!! Just a bargain hungry cool mom who loves to help others find cool stuff too. So thanks again for the great info on what to do and not do. Best wishes to you with this process. You may wonder why I didn’t just cut my hair short to get rid of the orange. It absolutely does not wash out. It’s never something g that should be done in one day and olaplex has turned out to be the best thing to use with lightener. The color change was enough! Here are some tips: Get a mix of highlights and lowlights to blend in the new growth with the old growth. I am in the second month of transitioning my high lighed, low lighted, blond base colored hair to gray. After all, our hair is like an accessory that we never take off and it either complements or detracts from every single outfit we wear. Marilyn, I’m SO sorry that you have experienced something similar to what I went through. Gray Hair Transition – Don’t Do What I Did! I will need to do it every 8 weeks and that will get incredibly expensive. Here are some of the main reasons why I love silvery, grey, glittery hair: I think the silver colour makes the colour of your eyes really stand out. See more ideas about Grey hair color, Gray hair growing out, Hair. I have tried the Rose gold on my white at the temples, barely a noticeable difference and after 2 shampoos completely gone! I know it’s often said that gray hair tends to be drier and more wiry, but I haven’t found that to be the case. I like the look of my grey roots and find that I have a natural whiter strip of hair growing in that looks very sophisticated. I am now a long haired, dark haired woman turning 54 on Wednesday, and I am noticing my hair thinning, and I am pulling it out by the fistfuls. I’m glad that my mistakes have helped to save others from doing what I did. Stage 1 : April 2017 the year I turned 50, I decided to start the transition. I forgave all of them a lot easier than I forgave myself, but time and finally finishing with the transition process helped a lot with that! We were living apart at the time due to my Army obligations, and every time we talked on the phone, he mentioned how much he disliked it. The fact that you’re going to go shorter with your haircut will help to make the process easier. When I decided to let my hair go grey I was 49, now the otherside of 50 I have no regrets and absolutely love how my hair looks now, it has given me more confidence than ever before, and I would recommend anyone who is thinking about the transition to wholeheartedly go for it. I want women to have as many helpful resources as possible to assist them in their transition process. If you wait to transition for many more years, your transition may be more difficult, which is one thing to consider (but is only one piece of the puzzle). I want to thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. You will be done THAT much sooner as a result. Hiya – a curly girl here. Best wishes! Help what’s my next move? I believe it softens me and suits my olive complexion more. If you’re not interested in the topic of gray hair transition, feel free to skip this one, as I will be back next week with a different topic. I’m 67 and curious about what my natural color is at this age. I colored it for his “Christmas present”. I have done more don’ts that do’s during my gray hair transition…. Also, institute a sort of “waiting period,” i.e. Nov 9, 2020 - Explore Meredith Frey's board "Hair styles for growing out grey hair" on Pinterest. It’s not easy (although it’s not usually as difficult for others as I was for me! I hope the rest of your process will go more smoothly and that you love the finished result. I have been reading your blog since “shopaholic” and find it very helpful and insightful and honest. My transition was not without its challenges. My whole purpose for writing this post and my others on gray hair was to make sure women are aware of potential issues so they can make more informed decisions. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. Be prepared. I’m in, I’m a little nervous but I’m going to do it!! I haven't colored my hair since 2008! It was the worst of both worlds – too short to style easily and too short to make proper curls. My hair is long like yours but I am happy to have it cut to a shoulder length bob when I can. Trim your hair regularly. . I haven’t colored it for 5 years so the look is very natural. My hair is actually softer and healthier without the dye, and I hope you will find the same thing to be true. Sometimes we think we’re ready and we’re really not. In this week's video, Joseff was looking to grow his hair out past the awkward phase and was inspired by the Jax Teller Sons of Anarchy hairstyle and the Captain America Infinity War haircut. I’m sure it was probably a very rare occurrence, but I believe in warning people, which is why I wrote this post in the first place! I started going grey in my 20’s and now in my 40’s, I just find going to the hairdressers a chore not a pleasure. Thank you, Kim, and congrats on taking the plunge to transition! You don’t need to cut it short. Part of why I wrote this post was to warn women of what MIGHT occur for them. See more ideas about Grey hair, Transition to gray hair, Gray hair growing out. Although I think anyone who goes with that is very brave. Thanks again for sharing. There is no one right way to “go gray,” but I think I’ve taken just about every wrong step a person can take along this path. It’s definitely harder for those of us with darker hair, as the contrast is far more pronounced. The expensive and time-consuming process was washed down the drain and the brass was back. I haven’t had a haircut in four months now and it doesn’t look THAT bad. I’m so glad I read this! I tried to find extensions in March 2018, but nothing matched very well. The grow grey out, with no additional processing: Without a doubt, growing out your hair slowly is the most difficult. I got compliments while growing my hair out at every stage in the process. I wish you all the best with your decision and with the process if you decide to “go gray.”, Thank you for your personal account of your struggles, I’m am starting the process, I’ve been dyeing my hair monthly for years now and occasionally considered letting it just grow out. Dont give up. I don’t like making small talk with a hairdresser and I feel subject to bamboozlement because I don’t know anything about coloring or hair. I can really identify with the sick to your stomach feeling you describe, as well as the crying. Biddy, thanks for your comment and congratulations on making the choice to let your natural hair shine! How to grow out gray hair. Also, having long hair is a big part of my identity and I was already struggling a lot with self-esteem issues related to life transitions and menopause. I’m so glad you found this post helpful, Gigi. What to do now, when your hair gets to that awkward stage and you feel like you can’t go on looking ”like that”, and almost give in to cutting it all again? On the bright side, grey hair has been one of the most popular trending looks in the past 2 years! If you’re brave and okay with tossing on a hat when the going gets tough, you can grow it out — but those first few inches can be doozy. Am having thoughts of whether to do it cold turkey or have it bleached. Good to you for taking the plunge and just growing your hair out cold turkey. I thought that adding short, gray hair to the mix might have been too much for me to handle along with aging, body changes, and hormonal weight gain. I think you look lovely! I figure that I will finally look my age and that may or may not be acceptable to me when I look in the mirror. Happy to help and I wish you the best on this path! All the social gatherings I was invited to have been cancelled – so I don’t have to worry about how I look. Not only did I not ask enough questions, but she gave me absolutely no tips for how to manage it and care for it. I was concerned because it looked like the toner wasn’t completely washing out or fading between my appointments (as you can see in the August side view above). Going “cold turkey” is definitely challenging, but I’m now convinced that it’s the best path for most women to take. Are you familiar with Erica Johnston on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/user/fittmama)? He’s in Southern California (where I live) and if I knew about him a few years back, I would have gone to him for help with my hair. It does truly help to see what others have gone through and to assist in making some decisions about your own hair. I know it is now two years later , but I want you to know that I have benefitted from your willingness to share your experiences. Congrats on taking the plunge, Patti! Thank you all for sharing your struggles. I decided to become a Virtual Assistant, that way I wouldn’t have to face those situations and I now I am really enjoying being my own boss. You can see that I have a lot of nice outgrowth on the top of my head and underneath. We think they will know what to do and I don’t think they acted maliciously or wanted to leave us with a brassy mess, but it’s wrong for them to do a process that wasn’t requested, as it sounds like happened to you. I think most of the critics and trolls from my last blog haven’t followed me over here, so hopefully I won’t be raked over the coals for my stupidity, but I’m taking the risk because I wish I had read this type of post myself two years ago. It is not for the impatient. update on my gray hair transition process, here’s how to tell if your hair is porous, https://fulllifereflections.com/2019/02/20/gray-hair-transition-changing-the-narrative/, https://katiegoesplatinum.com/category/silver-hair-transition-stories/, https://katiegoesplatinum.com/lockdown-gray-hair/, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PS9YenHjxBs&list=PLHFFQj78rSN6WSpJSeXMHSPBXeZHhOOHY&index=22&t=0s, On Forgiveness: The Three Types and When They Apply, 2020 Wardrobe Goals – End of the Year Update, Selling Clothing Items Online – December Update, 20 for 2020 “Life Goals” – November Update, Online Clothing Sales Update – What I’ve Sold and What I’ve Learned, Reflections on the “Infinite Present,” Confidence, and Personal Style, Following Up on My Holding Zone – and More Closet Purges. Hats, scarfs and who the hell knows what else. Keeping your hair well groomed and trimmed and split ends-free will make your hair thicker and stronger. For example, I was asked to chair a very large, formal fundraising auction the year that I had started growing out my gray hair . Ironically, those fears only served to make things worse for me, as you will soon learn. I don’t blow dry or style. My haircuts are few and far between, because as Naomi said somehow we lose all our power when we get in the chair. You seem to have a good attitude about the process of going gray. Many thanks for sharing your experience as it offers me a guide on what to do. Growing out grey transition hair with highlights takes patience, sometimes it can feel like you just wake up and see it, maybe because someone may point it out. She actually just did a video today on looking youthful with grey hair. The Color Crave hair makeup sounds like a good tool, too, especially for special occasions. I’m glad my post helped you to decide against highlights, Mary Louise. Thank you for offering this resource. I would like to see someone that’s growing out there gray that’s not young like these women ! Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. So, it’s been about 6 months and I really need a haircut. it’s been about 2 years and I am done with the hassle and fake look of dye. Yes, I have continued to use color during this process, but I haven’t put it on my scalp for two years now, which is at least one thing I’ve done right. This exact thing happened to me 2 days ago – I’m literally sick to my stomach , I keep telling myself WHY!! I feel as if I will be blah!! Thanks to all who have commented and been so helpful. ( Log Out /  See more ideas about gray hair growing out, transition to gray hair, grey hair color. I’m glad you found my essay inspiring, Sue. I went to a stylist 3 weeks ago. I shuddered to think about how unmanageable my hair might be during a pixie grow-out process. I came across this article (and your blog) while researching my options for growing my grey hair out. Interesting story! Since Julie, a.k.a. I found that it didn’t help a whole lot with my hair, but others have reported otherwise. “So mum when are you going to get over this phase of not wanting Plastic in the house?” “Is this like the time you wanted us to call you “maman” and not mum, or is it like the time you said you […], by Sanchia-Rose Today is National Spinach day!! It can be difficult to swim against the tide in all areas of life, and embracing natural hair when most women use hair dye is no exception. I hope you love the end result and learn a lot about yourself along the way. Trimming it won’t necessarily make hair grow faster, but will make it look definitely better and in better shape too. I don’t even know what color to call it its so incredibly ugly. Awesome that you took the time to share your story to prevent anyone else from doing the same steps to get through this transition. You’ll get there. So, why National Spinach day you might ask and what happened to National Broccoli or National Cauliflower day? My gray hair transition process was set back by many months and there was nothing I could do about it except cry, which I did many times. It was really funny when I was growing it out because I was really insecure and I didn’t want to be seen as an old woman. Probably you are hearing some of these terms at the moment, as all around the world women are giving up dying their hair and embracing their natural silver strands #silversisters #grombre. Glad to hear that you’re over the hump now, though, and good for you for taking the plunge to get a pixie cut. Today. However, I also have to consider I live with debilitating migraines and my dr’s tell me that not soaking my head in chemicals every few weeks can only help reduce the number of headaches. I even see new growth – that is super exciting for me since my hair is so straight and fine! It’s been well over a year since I last gave an update on my gray hair transition process. It’s not curly enough to look good worn “natural” and I have a lot of frizz, so it works best to wash it infrequently and flat-iron it straight. The last time I did a gray hair transition update was in November 2016, when I had recently gotten a full head of highlights to try to camouflage the line of demarcation, aka the “skunk stripe.” That was my first big mistake. Am liking the gray color, hence I decided to stop coloring. I have tried various chemical straightening treatments over the years and they either didn’t work well or caused an allergic reaction. They have much brighter colors but I fear they could stain and well we would then be talking starting again. Best wishes with the rest of your journey and I hope you stay well, too! I wish you all the best with growing your hair out. I have been noticing more brassiness in between color treatments recently – I go every 6 weeks. My sister and Mom have been very encouraging. I investigated this product further and asked my hairstylist if she thought it might be a good option for me. I will be doing another update soon (there were a few after this one – linked at the top of the post). It’s good that you found Katie’s site, as she has a lot of wonderful resources. If you avoid some of the mistakes I made, it won’t have to be a very lengthy process. I’m upset and demoralized about this, but what can I do? Big virtual hugs from a fellow going-grey-er ! I’m sorry you’ve struggled so much and that your husband hasn’t been very supportive of your desire to “go gray.” As for the stylists, I think they all mean well, but transitioning to gray by means of color is a tricky thing to do well, especially if one has porous hair. Like you, I started to view going to the hairdressers as a chore once I had to do it on a monthly basis (it got old – and expensive!). About 9 months in, I had a rinse applied. I wish you peace and clarity. Indeed. Jun 13, 2020 - Are you considering ditching the dye and embracing your grey hair? Now we come to the final mistake I made with my gray hair transition. It was horrific. I think that going “old school” is the best approach and the scarves and hats will definitely help. Make sure to have your follow up haircut scheduled for 8 weeks. I wish you the best of luck this time around and I hope you and your husband will both be able to embrace your natural hair. Best wishes to you and may you have strength to see the transition through. I have dark brunette hair while my mother and two older sisters were blonde so their experiences are not very helpful. My nerve pain has dramatically improved and because I’m chemically sensitive, I think not coloring my hair anymore is the best choice for me. I am sorry, but I have been a very, very bad blogger….or rather non-blogger! The type of deep-seated insecurities I wrote about back in 2014 led to a series of missteps that have made the going gray process harder and significantly set back my progress. The skunk line is getting old tho. It is just hair, after all ! I wish you all the best and I hope that when you start to socialize more, those around you will be encouraging rather than negative. The first few months, in particular, were difficult as my hair was about as two-toned as it gets. But as is often said, hindsight is 20/20. 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